Matthew 2412 “Because of the increase of wickedness, the love of most will grow cold”
It is true that the world is getting more and more dangerous. Just watch the news or scroll through the news online. We are all getting scared of what is going on in the world. However we shouldn’t let that paralyze us in our daily lives. We should be cautious, but not live in fear. Our souls belong to God and no one (NOONE) can take it from him. So we
needn’t fear our eternal lives, this life is only temporary anyway.
To start off, you need something to keep you calm in a crisis. panicking and loosing yourself to fear is only going to bring more trouble to the situation and make the matter worse. Faith and trust in God will ease the fear. Just remember for the faithful He is always in control in a situation and He will help you in times of trouble. If you start to feel yourself becoming afraid, pray. Feel for the presents of the Holy Spirit to give you strength.
If you know a hymn, something simple or short, Maybe just the courus. This is a great calming and coping technique. If you are crossing a dark parking lot or down an street at night. They say angels gather where the faithful sings hymns from the heart.
The next important thing you need to do for your safety is your body. Get in shape. This doesn’t mean a skinny little bean pole. This means muscle. You can have extra weight and have muscle and be able to run swiftly, and you can look slender and have no muscle and not be able to run a block. The better shape you are the better equipped you are to escape danger or fend for yourself. The better you can kick ass if needed. So find an exercise routine you can stick to and take up jogging. I will cover more on physical fitness on a later post.
To start off with some simple tips for When you are outside, but not in the great outdoors. Take a buddy. You are less likely to be assaulted if you are with other people. Keep you keys handy. In you hand or perhaps on a lanyard around your neck. I will talk about this in the section on defence items. If someone you don’t know approaches you, don’t let them distract you from what is going on around you. If they seem shady move quickly away from them and towards any group of people. They will not likely follow, but they may try to get in between to block you. Speak loudly, this will startle them and they will be less likely to continue engaging you for fear of others getting involved. On a similar note don’t use your
cell phone while walking.I know i know. We are all getting addicted to our phones. Myself included. But if you are looking down and checking your facebook (my addiction) then you are not paying attention to what is going on around you. A person can come up behind you and catch you off guard. Or you could end up walking out in front of traffic or some other dangerous situation. It has happened.
If you feel that someone is following you. Cross the street. If they follow you across the street increase your speed a little at a time and watch them if they do the same. If you become frightened enter a store near by or call the police. They may stay on the other side of the street but still following you. stay aware.
In a parking lot, avoid parking between vans. This block yours and others view of you and anything that may be going on near your car. Try to park in an open well lit area. If possible park near an exit. Shorter distance to walk. Before you enter the parking area, have your keys out nad in your hand. Have your car key or unlocking device in your hand and ready to use. Look around while you walk to your car and make sure no one is near by or watching you. Glance in the back seat to see that it is empty and no-one is hiding there and get in. Lock your doors as soon as you get in.
Don’t be afraid to be girly. Learn self defence techniques. There are simple ones that you can learn. I suggest taking a class, but don’t be afraid to be girly and pull hair and bite, and pinch , gouge eyes, and kick shins. Everyone can do this, if that is all you know do it.
Okay so making a fist for punching. Your thumb goes on the outside of your fist. Some people try to tuck it on the inside. This can hurt your thumb. It is important to learn to throw a punch. It is simple. Rise your non dominant hand. For most this is the left hand. Pull your right close to you and turn your hand palm up and make a fist when throwing the punch drop your left (or raised arm) and thrust your fist forward and as you do turn it over palm down. Strike with the knuckles of your hand.
If someone grabs you by the wrist hit the spot right below their knuckles of their first two fingers of the hand they grab you with. Hit it with all your might and break free.
If someone tries to grab you around the neck in a choke hold. Raise your elbow up and bring it down over their arms and while your body is turned cup one hand over the other and swing your elbow back up and hit them in the face.
If someone grabs you from behind like in a bear hug, bend at the knees and go down a little. Raise your arms to break his grip a little and bring your hands together like above and elbow them in the chest.
Okay no i want to talk a little about a subject that bothers me. So far i talked about outside threats, but for a lot of people, mostly women, the threats come from somewhere a lot
closer to them. Domestic violence is a terrible and dangerous thing and it is on the rise in the US. If you are someone you know is a victim of domestic violence, you need help. You need to get them help. Every human being deserves to be loved in a proper way. No one should be treated like a burden, a punching bag, a belonging to be used and then ignored.
The first thing to do is think. It is NOT your fault. Don’t blame yourself and don’t think that you did anything to bring this on. They have a problem. THey are not happy because of it and they are taking it out on you.
Don’t ignore your intuition. You know what is going on and you know when a situation isn’t right. I should mention that every situation is different and no one on the outside can give you perfect advice on how to deal with it. There are experts at a police station who are trained for this though. I should also mention that i am no expert and this is written from my own view point.
Don’t lie to the police or to your family to try to protect them or hide embarrassment. These are people who care about you and will understand. There is no shame in needing help and hiding anything will only impede their ability to help you.
Don’t give up and don’t think that you are beyond help. It may not be easy, but there is a way out and there will be an end even if it is not immediate. It may take time to get them out of your life, but the first step is to get out of the immediate danger. Don’t accept that
this is normal, that is accepted or culturally acceptable.
Don’t Go Back. Some people are so afraid of being alone or affraid of the unknown of the future that they will go back to a violent partner because it is what they know and they will accept their violence because it is familiar. They think they can handle it and it is what they know. There are people who will help you with the future. Who will not leave you in the unknown. There are organizations to help abused women that will help you adjust.
Okay say you are in an abusive relationship. Step one, commit to survival. You need out. Make a plan. You know the daily routine and you know when you can get out of the home. Do you have someplace you can go, a family member, a friend, an organized shelter. Make a go bag for the situation. Tuck away some cash, documents you will need, change of clothing. Depending on the situation will you need a prepaid phone. If their are children involved talk to them ahead of time and try to explain the situation. Children are smarter than we give them credit for. When the time comes walk out. Leave no indication that you plan on not coming back. Once out commit to never going back for any reason. Head to your save place, call the friend and let them know. Once there call the police and explain the situation. Get a restraining order. I know what they say, it’s just a piece of paper. True, but it does give the police the right to lock them up. But since it is just a piece of paper, learn self defence. Get self defence items. Learn to use them. Learn to empower yourself. Trust in God to bring you though this situation.
Here is a ladies’ EDC items (Every Day Carry) To keep you safe and prepared. There are plenty of dangers and problems in the world and here is a simple kit you can put together and keep in your purse or on your person that can keep you safe and ready. This is one i put together for my mom.
So many things are happening and going on having this can calm some fears and give yourself a little security and it’s her favorite color.
The big container is a first aid kit. It has aspirin, band aids, alcohol swabs and other things that come in handy.
A pocket knife has many uses and is small and takes up no space i keep one in my pocket all the time.
The pepper spray is on key chain and will deter a an attacker and will momentarily blind them.
The stun gun will stun them and the noise will scare off an attacking dog if encountered. Mom used it and scared grandpa with it by accident when they were out and about.
A pink flashlight also has a mirror in it that you can look at yourself or use it for signalling for help.
The little wing shaped device is a personal alarm. It is loud. Just pull the little button on the bottom. It will alert anyone nearby you need help like in an abandoned parking lot and potentially scare off an attacker. they wont stay long if they think someone will be coming to find out what the noise is. Or maybe you fall and can’t get up.
The lanyard and bracelet i made myself from paracord. The lanyard can hold your keys and you can swing it as a weapon. You can get some pretty heavy and solid key chains to put on it as well. It can keep your keys and possibly a flashlight handy. You can put a key in between each finger to use as an attacking weapon if needed. Like claws.
Both have glow in the dark beads on them to make them easier to find in the event of a black out or make you easier to find by rescuers. The lanyard has a compass on it and a clip for easy to release to get your keys off if needed. The bracelet has a buckle with a whistle on it and a fire starter flint. I put a key ring label on it. It is the kind with a blank spot to write something. I put her name and contact info on it in case she needs help of becomes disoriented. Altimers runs in the family. If she needs help she can go to a police officer and show them the bracelet and help her get home.