Ecclesiastes 4:10 “If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them.”
It is important to surround yourself with the right kind of friends. You can lean on them for support in difficult times. They can build you up. This is why we go to church on Sundays. God is everywhere and we can experience him and worship him anywhere, but going to church helps us to connect with other believers and support one another. The wrong kind of friends can pull you down and hold back your development. They can even ruin your life and what you are working towards if they are the toxic kind of friends. Toxic people need to be cut out of your life at least until you are well established in your faith. The wrong kind of people in your life will only bring you pain and drama. If your church is a good church and a REAL Christian church they will not judge or look down on you. We all have mistakes and a past. It should be noted that you don’t have to go to church to be saved, and you don’t have to go to church to find God. But a church is a good place to find supportive Christian friends to build your adventure/ or survival team.
To begin with it would be a good idea to find a church you like and trust. As you progress through this course material, you will find certificates of completion for your pastor to sign. The conditions for joining a church are as simple as receiving Jesus as your Savior and making a public statement as such. Taking your statement of faith to any church will do it.
It is great to be self sufficient, but no one can do everything alone, nor would you want to. Everything is more fun with friends. Even Jesus had the twelve apostles. Within the twelve He had his inner circle. Friends can comfort, guide, lend a hand or just give you a reason and will to survive. If your aim is adventure or surviving disaster, you are going to want a good balanced team of friends. These people will need to be trustworthy. people you can count on and you would place your life or your family in their hands.
First of course should be Jesus. After him, the first person to consider is going to be the person you will trust the most and begin this journey with. This person will act as your confidant. An accountability partner as well as you will be for them.
If you need help, here is a flowchart to help, It is from the Big Bang Theory. Build a relationship and get to know each other better. I wrote an article about a Men’s retreat about building such relationships. Read it here. It can serve for women as well.
An accountability partner is a person who coaches another person in terms of helping the other person keep a commitment. Someone who will speak frankly and not sugar coat anything for you. Tell you exactly how it is and where your short comings are in your walk with God. Someone you can trust to tell anything. Who wont spread gossip or betray your trust. It could be argued that Jesus had Peter as his best friend. Peter was always at his side. He was a simple fisherman until Jesus entered his life and he then became a great leader. Jesus can do this with people when he enters their life and he can do this for us as well. He can also bring that person who will stand with us on our journey if we ask him. When you find this person talk to them about it. You both have to agree to confidentiality. There has to be real trust there and you have to be serious about it. You will need to talk to one another about your life and maybe establish questions to ask about your Christian walk and tell each other about any problems you are facing. It is important to note that there is no obligation to physically or financially assist or support each other. When things like money come into play it gets complicated. Certain resentments can come into play so it is best avoid these complications or enter the relationship with certain ground rules set for things like lending money.
Once this relationship has been established, they should be included in your nature walks. Discuss your views on God and what he has created. Discuss your goals for your relationship with God and Jesus.
After this relationship has been established, you should build on your group. Consider what skills you are looking for. Is someone a good speaker. A spokesperson. Moses was bad at this and he had Aaron as his mouthpiece. Maybe they are good at bartering or convincing people to listen. This can help bring order in a bad situation. Can keep people from panicking and making things worse. Some people have a natural calming ability. You are not just thinking about the here and now. There could be tough times ahead.
Wilderness skills such as hunting, trapping, and fishing should be considered. Knowing what plants are edible and how to forage. These skills will bring nourishment to your group. Also knowing how to store and preserve food like canning and smoking meats or making jerky.
Medical and first aid skills. Perhaps everyone in your group should learn the basics of first aid, such as wrapping a wound and sterilizing. The average person is uncomfortable applying first aid and many will prefer to wait for someone else to step in. That could be a loss of precious time, but real medical skills and understanding can go along way.
Mechanical skills. Maintaining equipment and vehicles can be vital in a situation where you have to flee an area or get stranded in the wilderness. You may need to rely on a bug out vehicle to escape peril or even to live out of for shelter.Someone with mechanical skills can usually improvise in a pinch. Like weapon crafting.
Other potential skill or knowledge is a Gun guy. Someone who knows firearms and ammunition. Cooking. Fighting and self defense teachers. A jester or someone who brings a little comic relief. May sound weird, but having a joking type can actually bring down the stress level of a group and help keep things in perspective. A spiritual mentor that can bring guidance.
Here is an example. My best friend was raised around animals. She knows how to handle them. Horses goats, like how to milk them, how to train them. She knows a little about crops and nutrition like what we could survive on that would grow easy.
I have a friend who is a mechanic who welds and knows a little about cars. He and his wife live on a little farm stead. They raise chicken for eggs and grow some crops their selves and can what they grow.
I have another friend who is a survivalist who sews his own clothes and collects gear. He is usually seen with a pouch on his hip with survival tools in it.
Another friend on my list is actually not well like by the others, but in a survival situation her presence could be vital. In addition to what she knows about horses she is a universal donor. Most people ,like me, don’t know their blood type. She can give blood to anyone. Depending on the situation this could mean the difference of life and death.
Human beings are social creatures. We are made to interact with others. You should consider the size of your group and how big you want it to be. Consider that the family members of these people will likely become associate members by default and their needs need to be considered in a survival setting.
Further on Accountability Partner
Galatians 6 “Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently.”
It means that when we see someone that is struggling with life or sin, we stand by their side and try and pull them closer to Christ
When selecting an accountability partner it is important to note it is better to select someone of the same gender. It is usually easier to relate and talk openly. Especially when some of
those issues you need to work on involve alcohol or pornography. You should set times and days for checking in with each other. At least twice a week. It will make it easier if you set a certain activity involved such as meeting for coffee or breakfast.
Women can talk for a while and feel very close to someone, but men on the other hand feel closer to someone when involved in a physical activity. Like going for a jog or the gym. This is So plan around this. It is important to build trust and a relationship otherwise the process will not work. If the relationship doesn’t deepen we can’t be honest with one another. We hide behind walls.
To begin this process, you should take the first steps. You acknowledge Jesus as your savior. That we are all sinners and that we all have this problem.
Recognize God’s plan for our redemption and his power that can work in our lives. He can strengthen us and help us through this thing called life. And that he is faithful to forgive.
Search your Constance and recognize any wrong doing and attempt to make amends to those you can. Working together learn to live a new life with a moral code of behavior.
2 Timothy11, “Here is a trustworthy saying:
“If we died with him, we will also live with him; 12 if we endure, we will also reign with him. If we disown him, he will also disown us; 13 if we are faithless, he remains faithful,
for he cannot disown himself. ”
Questions to ask or be asked.
Have you been spending time with God this week? Is so how?
How have you been handling your finances?
Many stressors in life have to do with money issues and when we are stressed we do things like spend money on things we think will make us happy.
Have you been exposing your mind to sexually inappropriate things?
Okay be honest, this is a problem for many people. Mostly aimed at young men and women, there are many people who still suffer from addictions thanks to the Internet.
Have you been taking care of your body?
Our spiritual life is important, but so is our physical. If we are not healthy it will affect how we feel. If we feel unhealthy it will affect how we act. How much time and effort we put into anything.
What are you doing to enjoy life?
We sin because we enjoy it. We seek out sins when we are not satisfied with our lives. Having hobbies and if possible charity work that you are passionate about is a good distraction from sin. If we have something we are passionate about, we will feel satisfied and happy with our lives.
What are any new stressors in your life?
Do you just want to hang out?
Sometime we should just spend time with someone. If they are not ready to talk just being there and spending time can do amazing things for someone’s emotional well being. Especially when someone is unhappy. Remember Job and his friends. When he was mourning his friends just sat with him for a long time. They shared his pain and comforted him as best they could. Sometimes just knowing someone is there is enough. When they are ready they will talk about it.
Is there anything i should know?
A final question. Have you lied to me?